Girls: Understanding Ourselves

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Today is not the same day. Hari ini entah kenapa gue memperhatikan sekeliling gue. Biasanya setiap hari gue akan pake headset, setel lagu and ignore the world. Tapi entah kenapa, hari ini engga.

Gue denger ada kasus pemerkosaan di angkot. It is a very serious case. Karena ini ga cuma terjadi sekali. It goes on and on and on and on.. Round and round in circle.

What can we -as girls- do about this?

Gue pengalaman dari sejak SMP sampe sekarang selalu ngandelin angkot kalo kemana mana. Gue hampir ga pernah dianter atau dijemput pake mobil atayu motor terus anyang unyung jadi manja. No.

And I would like to thank to my family because of that. Karena walaupun menyebalkan berdesak desakkan dengan orang asing, itu semua membuat gue lebih mandiri, waspada dan nggak manja.

Dan selama bertahun tahun itu, gue alhamdulillah belum pernah mengalami pelecehan di dalem angkot.

Tapi bukannya selain di angkot ga pernah.

pas SD kelas 6 gue pulang sekolah sendirian lewat komplek sepi. Ga lama dari arah berlawanan ada laki laki setengah baya pake jaket hitam dan helm gelap lewat pake motor, then he touched my chest. It happened all of sudden! gue kaget, shock dan gatau mesti ngomong apa selain, "ANJING LO!!!!" terus dia berhenti, melihat ke arag gue dan membuka kaca helmnya. Dia ngedipin sebelah matanya. terus dia pergi.

I was almost crying.

That was the first time I experienced a sexual harassment.

And the sad part is, that wasn't the last time.

Saat gue SMP, ditempat yang sama, dan saat gue berjalan sendirian lagi di komplek itu, seorang eksibisionis gendut lewat memakai motor. Dia berhenti dan menyapa gue..
Sambil memegang megang 'barangnya'. It was shocking.. but then somehow I acted cool like nothing happen. My mama said that would make him unsatisfied. If you showed him your shockness, he will get 'high' then masturbated in front of you. And you can do nothing cause if you run, he will chase you.

And I experienced that twice. Skip!

Then once I had a biggest mistake in my life. Once my ex asked if if we can do something.. he insisted me.. to do something that must not be done. You know what I mean. I slapped him and say no. But that wont make him stop. He insisted me again and again next day. I keep saying No. Lucky me I could break up with him, no regret at all of course. but I feel relieved. I'm over him.

And now I keep thanking that I stand in my on beliefs, kalo kita, cewek, ngga boleh sembarangan mau dipegang pegang sama cowok. Sekalipun itu pacar kita. Kita berharga. Kalo cowok itu bener bener sayang sama kita, Dia akan menghargai kita. respek itu nomor satu. Saat dalam hati kecil lo berkata "Tidak!" jadilah berani. You are not the only one. HE IS NOT THE ONLY ONE. Believe me, trust your heart. If you and him still have morals, you won't do that.

Karena pada akhirnya kita, cewek, yang akan memikul tanggung jawab, kalo seandainya kita (amit amit) hamil diluar nikah? Who suffered first? Sukur sukur cowonya mau tanggung jawab. kalo engga?

We live in society where virginity is a very sacred part to kept by every woman.

Sounds unfair to you?

Yes, some of you might be thought so.

Semua itu tergantung lo menyikapinya. Tergantung gimana lo akan bersikap setelah membaca tulisan gue. Maybe some of you can't agree with me. It's okay.

Tapi gue harap lo berpikir.

Pelan pelan aja, ngga usah terlalu dalam.

Dimulai dari pernah ngga lo menghargai diri lo sendiri?


Love,